Hello beautiful Souls. My message today is about navigating forgiveness.
This meme below always strikes a chord for me. "Forgive people in your life, even those who are not sorry for their actions. Holding on to anger only hurts you not them"
You see, so often those who have transgressed against you are not even remotely aware of their disrespect of hurtful action towards you. Also those who are not aware of your pain are not aware they have hurt or damaged your view of them.
This pain or hurt you are experiencing is your pain, your hurt not theirs! This might sound like a hard pill to swallow. The truth is that what they have done wrong is your opinion and your feelings not theirs.
You have only two options here. Talk to them about how you feel in civil manner or pick your battles and decide if it is worth the anger and anguish you are experiencing. Neither of these options are right or wrong and both require a direct result in closure. If you decide to share how you are feeling with someone you feel has disrespected you, it is also a valuable consideration to think if this is going to change the outcome and make you feel feel any better. If you walk away and decide to leave it alone, is this going to change how you feel or them?
The bottom line here is to decide what is going to give you the closure without discounting the apology you may never get or the forgiveness you feel is necessary to heal. Quite honestly it is more important to try simply recognise it was not about you, it was about their issues. Karma has a special place when you hand over the challenge to forgiveness and walk on tall!
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