Hello beautiful Souls. My message today is about allowing yourself and giving yourself permission to feel sad sometimes.
Life can be full of unexpected things, but somehow we are expected to just move on. I would like to dedicate my post today to those who are sad, depressed or grieving. Why offer an immediate responds to those who feel down. " you will get over it, it will be ok"? I don't agree totally. At this very moment when you are sad, hurt and in pain, you can't relate to those "well intended" remarks. Your whole world is falling apart and someone tells you...." you will be ok!!!" `Your heart literally feels like it will snap in two! I don't think this is the most appropriate reply when someone cannot see the positive. May it will be more appreciated if you simply gave them a hug and told them they are not alone.
Yes, as you work though your sadness things get a little easier. The most important thing is to allow yourself is to be sad, allow yourself to grieve and allow yourself to cry. These are all part of your healing process, different DNA strands are formed and made in different kinds of tears, tears of grief are a DNA that are healing tears.
You need to understand and come to terms with reality. Focus on the fact that this is the situation, it is happening. So no, we don't just simply let things go! We have to allow things , "let them be!" We must allow ourselves to express our feelings. The best thing you can do for someone is just be there for them. All they need to hear is that they are loved and acknowledge their hurt, sadness or grief.
Don't try fix them. The people you always remember are the ones who are there for you always not just at your best. Time doesn't really heal, time just helps to make the hurt a little easier to cope with. The time it takes to heal depends on each individual allowing themselves to get to a point of acceptance of their personal issue. We also need to find a time to move forward and find acceptance of our loss.
Your memories of the good times and the practice of positive love are what get you through. We have to the hold onto the memory of the happy moments and embrace a celebration of the good times we had. Offer to take a friend for a walk. Try get out in nature, go for a walk along the beach, in a forest or just sit in the garden. We need to smile through the tears and as weird as it sounds laugh a little too. When we feel loved , we don't feel so sad. Be the light in someone life today! Give them a glimmer of hope and a smile. When someone is feeling low often a hug says it all!
Remember grief is not just about physical raw death and the loss of a loved one who is not going to return. Grief is a loss, a loss of something that will not be again. It could be a relationship/friendship failure, divorce, a destructive fire, an abandonment, a sadness , a pet who is lost, a hard disappointment a personal injustice or simply a feeling of hopelessness and not feeling an acceptance.
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