It’s ok to take time to heal

Greetings beautiful Souls.

My message today is about taking things personally and being over sensitive.

I am sure you often hear:

"Just don't let it get to you! Stop being so hard on yourself! I am sure he didn't mean it! " OR my personal favourite! " You just need to get over it, let things go!" "Suck it up butter cup."

THESE are all things we often hear or say to others and are often really well intended. The issue with hearing this is that it doesn't necessarily make you feel any better.

Sometimes our real sensitive nature or unknown trauma is not respected. Always speak kindly. You can be honest if you know someone well. Be kind when you feel the need to express a view point to someone else. It's often not what we say but how we say it!

When our sensitive nature is being disregarded and misunderstood it's hurtful and disrespectful.

So many of us are social perfectionists where we don't want others the recognise or identify our faults or mistakes. This can be displayed if we are wearing a mask or people pleasing.

Is it really about what others think of us or about how it's making us feel? When we are sensitive, we have to monitor whether criticism is about us personally, or is it about the person's own issues!

Is it possibly, purely, well meant advice and with good intention? Make sure you pause before answering or reacting to a criticism or observation from someone else, before you immediately become defensive, reactive or argue this point at all.

Decide if it is something personally directed at you or is it a life lesson. Deal with the lesson or challenge rather than the person. Identify what the actual issue is, not who is making the issue! Make a decision if it's worth responding to at all!

Being a sensitive soul can sometimes make you take things far too personally. Keep shining you light and remember being sensitive means you care.