Time in solitude made me see who I am!

Hello Beautiful Souls, my message today is about getting lost helped me find my way !

💖 The journey home and reclaiming my authentic self with a little help of solitude and reflective processing was undoubtedly a core aspect of my life.

The phrase "finding yourself" is truly an inaccurate term; it's less about searching and more about a 360-degree journey of return. For too long, I was molded by external influences—the heavy hand of cultural conditioning, the weight of other people's opinions, and ingrained beliefs stemming from childhood. This subtle external interference created a version of me that was not authentic, effectively taking control away from my true self.

To initiate this life-changing internal shift, I realized the absolute necessity of solitude. It was only by spending time alone that I could finally drown out the external noise and begin the deep inner reflection needed to untangle who I was from who I was conditioned to be. This essential time alone allowed me to discern my own identity separate from all outside interference.

As I sit here on my favourite beach after an early morning walk, I also am reminded that this journey of self-uncovering was not easy. It was, at times, hard, bitter, and sad, requiring me to confront the distorted reality and damage caused by living inauthentically. I was searching for an identity I had “lost” … disstrorted by roles ; mother, wife and home maker and my past trauma were roles and events that had no boundaries. As much as I loved them and all the positive and beautiful things they gave me. I started asking the questions I had not asked myself. Who was I ?

Yet, this necessary upheaval led to profound change and growth, primarily through the crucial act of setting boundaries and fiercely deciding what truly served my well-being. This was the work needed to create the ultimate destination: a space of freedom—the power to just be, defined entirely by my own authenticity.

Surprisingly, I am grateful for the period when I truly lost my way. Having no real direction was the catalyst that sent me seeking, forcing a fundamental understanding, that my worthiness was what I was born with!

It wasn't something I needed to earn back; it was inherent. This realization, forged in moments of solitude, was the light I needed, illuminating a path I could finally call home. By shining that light, I got my power back, grew wings to freedom, and discovered both spiritual healing and a deep well of inner peace.

My take away : It’s a headspace of letting life be… a beautiful space of acceptance and gratification that encourages me to keep on growing through the curiosity. I have to embrace the vulnerability of having fun and of course take heed of the lessons I learn. It is important to offer a perspective of forgiveness of to self and loving yourself as and who you truly are. I have come to understand have no right to ownership or possession of others. I am not right … I am not wrong … I am different! And … that quite ok!