Be more gentle with “YOU” today.

Hello Bea Souls. My message today is to be more gentle on “YOU” today, a powerful and much-needed message about self-compassion and mindfulness of our inner dialogue.

When listening to someone’s negative and harsh dialogue about themselves, whether it's physical or mental healing, we realise we too have to be more gentle with ourselves and give it time. The thoughts and words we feed ourselves have the ability to access our behavior and our character.

Here are several key tools that are fundamental to well-being and better compassion to self.

• The Inner Critic:

A reminder that you are absolutely the harshest critic you face and often the one doing this in your own head. Recognizing that inner commentary and the way it depreciates our worth is the critical first step toward change.

• Self-Acceptance and Kindness:

The idea that it's okay to feel "not okay" sometimes, and to allow yourself to indulge in those moments to process your feelings, is essential. True healing can't happen when we fight our own emotions.

• The Power of Narrative:

The distinction between thinking "I am broken and helpless" versus "I'm growing and healing" is vital. The narrative we adopt transforms us from a victim to an active agent in our own lives, focusing on what we can do to improve and move forward.

The core value of my message is, switching the narrative and taking action to correct self-destructive behaviors—is a beautiful base for learning to love and find acceptance.

The shift from self-criticism to self-improvement is so valuable. To build on the idea of taking action, sometimes the action isn't about doing something big, but about setting a boundary against the toxic inner voice.

Instead of just countering a negative thought ("I am ugly") with a positive one ("I am beautiful"), an equally powerful action is to simply say: "Stop. That thought is not serving me," and consciously redirect your attention to a task, a sensory experience, or a small moment of gratitude. This practice trains the mind to disengage from the criticism rather than getting into a mental argument with it.

Unrealistic expectations

When we set our goals too high and push ourselves beyond the reachable limits for ourselves, (both physically or mentally) we find we struggle to achieve our ultimate objective. Reassuring and reassessing ourselves regularly serves us to find what is an achievable goal! This is vital, so as to not present us with disappointment, frustration, anxiety or depression.

Think about one thing you could change today that you were thinking or saying to yourself that needs a changed narrative to self! What’s the one gentle action you can change for “YOU” today?

I hope that your fabulistic day continues with this positive, healing mindset!