Remembering our memories…

Hello beautiful Souls. My message today is about the flexibility of memory—the understanding that our memories are not fixed recordings, but rather dynamic flexible stories we reconstruct each time they are recalled.

Do you remember when?

Just like the evolving story in the “Telephone Game”, where a whispered sentence changes by the time it reaches the last person, our personal stories evolve. When we retell an event four or five times, it either gains or loses details. This happens because everyone interprets information according to their own understanding—we hear what we are willing or able to hear.

When we experience trauma, our mind and body connection activates the sympathetic nervous system (fight, flight, or freeze) for protection. In this "resource mode," the brain filters out information. Our memory serves as a survival tool.

Under stress or panic, we may experience "brain fog" or memory loss. This is an inner resource that decides what to extract or reveal in order to keep us safe. It’s our brain protecting us in discarding or blocking out the trauma.

Our brain uses context to retrieve memory. If you walk into a room and forget why, retracing your steps often acts as a wonderful "reset button," helping you access the memory linked to the previous place. An experience, a picture or a simple word can help us remember something.

It’s a good tool to do brain gym everyday, do a puzzles and games with problem solving options to keep your mind and thoughts seek solutions and being activity stimulated to find growth and improve.

We should know that because our memory is often not accurate, and the meaning we attach to a situation may have changed over time, we must approach our past with intention; this is the call to healing and understanding.

We need to be willing to remember and retrace those steps in order to accurately recall what we are trying to heal. In the process of understanding the reconstructive nature of memory, it helps us realize that someone who seems to not be listening may simply have interpreted a situation differently. Thus, drawing their own conclusion because they didn't fully understand. Be patient… be kind.