Hello beautiful Souls. Today let's "Talk about it" stop feeling angry.
How many times have you felt you are about ready to snap? How many times have you consciously held back? How many times have you wanted to burst into tears, yet were programmed to see this as a weakness and a manipulative behaviour to gain attention?
You are in fact expressing your emotions and allowing yourself to process when you permit yourself to be vulnerable. To be courageous you will need to experience this vulnerability. It is also a very scary feeling to feel out of control. We become reactive and defensive without any warning. Pretending like everything is fine will also serve no purpose and helps no one. If things are not fine for you right now, take this time to process and find the acceptance in "I AM ANGRY!" You are allowed to be angry and then talk about it with someone.
A trustworthy friend, a family member, a Life Coach, a Therapist, your Priest/Rabbi, (even your dog or your goldfish) – someone who really cares and holds space for you without judgement and respects this space. Talk to the person who you know will listen.
Be aware to try live in the present and don’t hold it in. That being said, this, too... is about balance. We need to vent and to be vulnerable, but if this starts to becoming about anger and shouting out loud or ranting, then it might be time to pull back a bit.
The reason is, this actually creates more anger for us and others. If we are going to continue with anger nothing will be resolved. Finger pointing is just not a solution. This is the time when we need to find the solution and allow the challenge to be resolved without that anger or emotional behaviour. The best option is once we have calmed down, is to fact find, simply only focus on the hard facts and then decide what we can do to rectify this challenge causing the anger. Maybe, the best answer will be that we are not in our control of changing anything, therefore let it be. When we remove the emotion of ANGER we will find a different perspective to explore to find he answer from within. Ask yourself if the anger will actually change anything or make it worse?
Start to be creative and tap into your resources to help you feel less detached and also less caught up in the drama. Find a distraction, a hobby, past time, meet-up group or course to do to upskill yourself.
Bring new enthusiasm and joy into your life again.
Now it's time to re-programme, talk about what you love, something silly and funny, or just what you appreciate about the person you are talking to. It will make them and you feel good, and, at the end of the day, isn’t that what we’re talking about here?
Be careful of getting lost in the "over-working" space to hide away and start spending more time living and embrace your alloness, instead of a feeling of being restricted. Allow your vulnerability to give you a space of growth and freedom to make your OWN decisions and not having to answer to anyone.
Look at new ideas to excite you and process your current emotions.
Always try acknowledge that these feelings are temporary.
Eat healthy and exercise more! Get out in nature. Ask yourself " What will give you joy right now?" Be more mindful and aware and allow your inner resources and creativity to guide you to feeling that life IS different and we have to make the best possible life for ourselves within the perimeters we are facing. Tread slowly, one focus at a time, one day at a time.
Every step of our journey in life offers us and opportunity of how to grow, how to heal and how to deal! LIVE, LOVE AND LAUGH - FIND YOUR JOY AGAIN!
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